Just thinking about having sex can seem exhausting for new parents, specifically with all the things stacked against them: the pain from delivery, medications, hormones and possible depression.
Although there is no obligatory waiting period before a couple can have sex again, many health care providers recommend holding on to sex until four to six weeks after delivery, irrespective of the delivery method. In addition to postpartum discharge and vaginal tears, you might experience fatigue, vaginal dryness, pain, and low sexual desire. Furthermore, if you had a vaginal tear requiring surgical repair, you might need to hold off a bit longer.
According to Parent Magazine, giving birth awakens us to a range of sensations, and as a result, our bodies, particularly our genitals, become more alive, increasing our pleasure potential. Childbirth can also shift our internal parts into just the right place, to make them more sensitive to stimulation. “Many women report more comfort with their bodies and more intense orgasms after having kids.
Tips for a healthy sex life with your partner post-pregnancy according to healthline:
- Take it slow. In the first weeks after you’ve been cleared for sex, your body may not be ready to jump back to pre-pregnancy activities. Take things one day at a time. Try intimate activities to warm up to sex again, such as massage.
- Increase foreplay. Give your vagina time to produce its own natural lubrication. Stretch out foreplay, try mutual masturbation, or engage in other activities before penetrative sex.
- Use a lubricant. You may need a little help with lubrication as your hormones readjust. Look for a water-based option. Oil-based lubes can damage condoms and irritate sensitive tissue.
- Practice Kegels. Kegel exercises help rebuild pelvic floor muscles. This can help with common postdelivery issues, like incontinence. Exercising the muscles can also help you regain strength and sensation in your vagina. Build up your stamina by doing longer holds.
- Make time for sex. With a new baby in the house, you and your partner may not have a lot of time for spontaneity. Put time on your calendars to be together. This way, you won’t be rushed or anxious.
- Talk with your partner. Sex after delivery is different, not bad. Different can be fun and exciting, but you should keep an open dialogue with your partner about what feels good and what doesn’t. This will help you enjoy sex again and make sure you’re not experiencing any unnecessary pain.